I hope getting it written down has helped you organise your head-space around things a bit better.
The only comments I can leave are along the lines of what you seem to be thinking. Sure having totally honest and open relationships with family would be great, in perfect-world. But it's up to us to decide if emotional cost of their negative reactions are worth it. Just like with friends we confide more in the most trustworthy ones who aren't going to give us grief about stuff that's not actually a problem. I think it's perfectly acceptable to do the same with family members, they don't automatically have a right to know everything gong on in our lives because their family if that not what we want or is good for us.
I'm not sure if you're a reader of Captain Awkward or not, but I'm going to leave the most recent question she covered on a similar theme (there will probably be more similar ones when searched) as her advice tends to be pretty solid and better written than anything I could write. http://captainawkward.com/2014/06/18/591-how-do-i-tell-my-nosy-mom-about-my-ummfriend/
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Date: 2014-07-04 08:04 am (UTC)I hope getting it written down has helped you organise your head-space around things a bit better.
The only comments I can leave are along the lines of what you seem to be thinking. Sure having totally honest and open relationships with family would be great, in perfect-world. But it's up to us to decide if emotional cost of their negative reactions are worth it. Just like with friends we confide more in the most trustworthy ones who aren't going to give us grief about stuff that's not actually a problem. I think it's perfectly acceptable to do the same with family members, they don't automatically have a right to know everything gong on in our lives because their family if that not what we want or is good for us.
I'm not sure if you're a reader of Captain Awkward or not, but I'm going to leave the most recent question she covered on a similar theme (there will probably be more similar ones when searched) as her advice tends to be pretty solid and better written than anything I could write. http://captainawkward.com/2014/06/18/591-how-do-i-tell-my-nosy-mom-about-my-ummfriend/